As a 2x cancer survivor, author Niya Brown Matthews used her obstacles to pen her book, The Boss in You. SBH caught up with Niya to get the details of her book and why it’s a must read for those looking to take their life to the next level…
What’s your definition of a boss?
A boss is not just someone who makes money. It’s a person who possesses a level of confidence that allows him or her to look at challenges and obstacles in the face, and declare that it won’t knock them down. It’s a person who possesses the power to determine their own path and if they don’t see a path they want, they create it. A boss finds an opportunity and they come up with their own way.
What inspired you to write, The Boss In You?
My daughter and her generation of young girls are looking up to us mothers and I wanted them to have a level of women out there to inspire and give them direction. I want to educate and empower them to overcome their obstacles and challenges they face.
You’re a 2x cancer survivor. Can you tell us about that experience?
I was diagnosed when I was 27. It didn’t run in my family and nobody talked about it. I had just moved to Atlanta, GA at the time, so I was at the top of my game as far as my professional career. [I did] a regular shower exam on my own and I felt a lump. Two weeks went by and I went to the doctor and that’s when I got the news. I had the biopsy done, and they told me I had stage two breast cancer. I was low, I was mad at God and I had just lost my father to Lupus. However, I was able to get through it. [The cancer] returned again at 37,but I was better prepared—physically, mentally and my support system was there. It was challenging, but I made it through.
How did that experience help you find the boss in you?
I had to tap into my faith, I had to learn how to find the balance and know that everyone is going to be faced with some obstacles. It also helped show my purpose. I was able to jot down in a journal during treatment. That journal turned into a manuscript, and that manuscript turned into a book. I had to dig into the boss in me, which was already there. We all have a boss in us—we just have to pull it out.
What are some of the topics you cover in the book?
It’s not just about [being a] professional, it’s about life and love. I’m a wife and a mother, and it’s about finding that balance and putting things in the right order and realizing that you need faith. I think God is the foundation of what we have in our lives. You can use my book as your own personal journal—it’s a way to help you cope and put your thoughts down on how you can be a better you.
What do you want readers to take away from The Boss In You?
I want women, young ladies and even men to know that regardless of your current circumstances or setbacks, they can make necessary changes in their lives to become successful in their career and in love. I really want people to use this book as a journal to help them become a better person.
What do you think it’s so hard for people to take the initiative to pursue their dreams?
I don’t think there’s a reason. I just think some people aren’t self-motivated. Unfortunately, some people don’t grow up in an environment where they saw positive and successful people, so they have no idea of how to pursue a dream or goal.
What’s one tip you would give to someone who needs a push in finding the boss in him or her?
I believe that we all get in the way of our own success, but I we’re all destined for greatness. We were built for it and we’re already endowed with the intellect and the ability to do it—we just need to get up and make it happen. Don’t be afraid. Most times, fear is the reason people don’t take chances because they’re afraid of the “what-ifs.”
Pick up a copy of The Boss in You at Barnes & Noble, Amazon or NiyaBrownMatthhews.com.